I’m actually gonna get back to writing in the next couple of days, but as of late I just haven’t found the time. I’m currently in Idaho after driving cross country to visit my mom because on January 19th she/we got the news that the Docs are out of options for treating her cancer. Don’t worry, another… longer… video that I made at the rest area right before Boise will be coming of me babbling about why I just drove 2697.1 miles… and of the shift my thoughts took after being in the “Cute Little Jeep” for two and a half days with nothing but my thoughts. (That’s a lie… I had music, a sleeping bag, instant coffee, phone calls and Facetime with friends and family, my guitar, my camp stove… and Squishy.) For today though, I thought I would start with when I was doing laundry as I was getting ready for the road trip. Who knows, maybe someone will find my “Housekeeping Tips for Widowers” helpful…?! (Martha would probably be appalled by my directions and fitted sheet folding abilities, but Snoop would probably be in the same frame of mind as I was in and realize… it’s just a fitted sheet.)
Thirty Days of Mo(u)rning
A widower at forty-two. What Kateri gave me… what cancer took away… and how I'm coping with life from the woods of Vermont
Thirty Days of Mo(u)rning 
10 thoughts on “Housekeeping Tips for Widowers… and anyone else who is baffled by the fitted sheet.”
Maggie
Darren, I am so sorry to read the update on your mom. I know there is nothing anyone can say to make this easier, but if it helps at all, you are all in my thoughts. I have been where you are. All good thoughts always. (we fold fitted sheets the same ways I think you’re onto something.)
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Darren Lidstrom
Although it completely sucks, I’m gonna say that it does make it a bit easier knowing there are people out there who think about other people! Thank you, Maggie.
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lssattitudeofgratitude
Sorry about your mom’s news. Holding you in my prayers.
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Darren Lidstrom
Thank you, Lauren.
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jennasnanny04
I have thought about you and your Mom. Sorry to hear this news and what you all have to go thru.
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Darren Lidstrom
Ya… it’s pretty poopy, but I’m glad I’m out here and my mom can have her entire family near her… all four of us!… plus my sister’s hubby and offspring.
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Christy
Darren,
Thank you for the fitted sheet advice! Great skills!
I am so sorry to hear of your mom and how the evil cancer has struck again. I pray for her and you and all your family. There is nothing about any of it that gets easier. Memeories never stop, life ways never stop, and the love we hold for our families never stop. I’m coming up on 3 years since the day I sat with my Daddy when the Dr. Told us about his cancer ridden body, and 2 weeks later he was gone. Cherish your time and be so grateful you get to be there with your mom and siblings.(I know you do!) Thats exactly what your mom needs now. 💗
Hugs and prayers 🙏
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Darren Lidstrom
Thanks Christy. Ya… it’s a hard thing to go through, but my mom has been living with cancer for over four years now so I accepted the end result a while back. I don’t like it!… but I accepted it. Currently, it’s just kinda hard seeing her struggle to do basic things like hold or a cup… or talk. Luckily, she’s not in pain and is in good spirits… most of the time!… when she’s awake.
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Elizabeth
I can only send you much love as the trauma of losing your mom reignites your loss of Kateri. Too much pain with too much loss. As for fitted sheets– I just ball them up!
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Darren Lidstrom
Sometimes balling up the fitted sheets is the best way to deal with them! Thank you for sending some love… it certainly helps.
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