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    Posted at 9:15 am by Darren Lidstrom, on August 31, 2021

    There are a few things that I just absolutely love about living in Vermont… things that are simply a part of living in New England such as seeing steam pour out of sugar shacks in the spring or the hills turning so green throughout the summer that it makes you thirsty. The leaves changing in the fall creating a sea of reds, yellows, and everything in between. And the piles of wood you see in yards on daily commutes as you think to yourself, “They better get a stackin’ before the center of that pile rots and a plethora of woodland creatures decide to move in!”.

    Kateri and I always loved having a wood stove. There’s just something to be said about having a hot spot to stand next to when it’s 17 below outside and the snow is piling up. We lived in just two places without a wood stove and I’ve gotta say… life just wasn’t the same! I mean, it was still pretty frickin’ good… just colder.

    I’ve always enjoyed stacking wood… for my own place. As we like to say, “It warms you twice!”. Of course, I’ve come to the conclusion that it actually warms me like 4 times with the amount of times I move it… stack it here, then unstack and restack there, then move it inside… and then finally light that shit up and get the stove a crankin’!

    When we bought our Little Red Schoolhouse, it was in the fall so one of the first things we had to do was find a few cord of wood. I was so excited because for the first time we actually had a covered spot to store it, out behind Kateri’s Potting Shed under the lean-to… and I stacked it there for a couple of years. When Kateri died and I was left here alone, I was forced to figure out how to make things a little easier on myself when it came to all sorts of things. The lean-to was great… and I loved seeing three cord neatly stacked and settled in for the winter between those red posts and under the galvanized roof, but it was also the furthest possible point away from the house that we could stack it! So last year I decided to simply make a couple of long rows above the lower rock wall since it would be much…MUCH… more accessible in case I needed to access it. (Current year’s wood is in the garage). Plus, it’s basically where my wood guy drops it so I thought it would make it easier to stack! That, coupled with the fact that I’m in a personal competition with my neighbor… who doesn’t know it, but is also my inspiration… on who can create the coolest stack of wood made me think about how I could take this “chore” and make it into something that would provide me with a little joy and give a sense of accomplishment more than just having my wood stacked. So this year I decided to add… lights!

    As a widower, I thought about how could I take this event that happens every year and insert a little bit of Kateri into it. I guess you could actually say Kateri was my inspiration for the theme of this year’s stacking. She had bought a few iron balls which had little battery powered LED lights that you wrap around them to spruce up your garden/yard/home/whatever and they’ve just been hangin’ out in her shed for three years now. When I thought about my one sided competition with my neighbor… those globes came to mind. Yes, my neighbor has iron rings with flowers hangin’ in them and little whoop de doos n shit… but you can see mine IN THE DARK! Mwah ha ha!!

    Yes, some may simply think of stacking wood as a chore and something that just needs to get done… which it does… but more so this year than in any years past I have found it is warming more than just my Little Red Schoolhouse. This year, every time I look at those tidy rolling rows and see the light shining out over the dirt road of Wild Hill… it warms my heart with the memory of my wife… and the life she gave me.

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    Author: Darren Lidstrom

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    8 thoughts on “Next Year’s Wood… stacked.”

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      Maggie

      August 31, 2021 at 9:30 am

      Darren, what an absolutely delightful post. I wish you a fall of color and a winter full of warm nights by the fire. Bless you! I would vote for your stack of wood any day!

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      • Darren Lidstrom

        September 3, 2021 at 8:59 pm

        Thanks Maggie! I’ve gotta say… I’m still a little obsessed with the wood pile. Even though I can only see the back of it from my house… I keep looking out the window to see if the lights are still shining on the road!… and I’m waiting to see how long the batteries last. (I think solar is on the horizon.)

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      Todd

      August 31, 2021 at 4:59 pm

      Looks awesome! We’ll done sir. 👍🏼👍🏼

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      • Darren Lidstrom

        September 3, 2021 at 9:07 pm

        Thanks man! I’m pretty sure I’m gonna have to stack wood again next year… and it’s really fun to do… and I’ve still got the spare bedroom… with the bed big enough to fit really tall dudes… if they sleep sideways… in the fetal position…

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      Todd

      August 31, 2021 at 5:00 pm

      *well

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      lssattitudeofgratitude

      September 1, 2021 at 12:08 am

      What a wonderful way to evoke good memories as you reach for the warming pieces of wood.

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      • Darren Lidstrom

        September 3, 2021 at 9:23 pm

        It’s been a great experience! Not only for the attachments to Kateri, but also for me in this different life! And now it’s just gonna sit there for a year so I can enjoy it whenever I want!… when I’m at home.

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        • lssattitudeofgratitude

          September 3, 2021 at 10:50 pm

          Sounds like a way to celebrate the old and new as you move forward. Nice job.

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