A friend of mine lost someone very close to them in the last couple of days and on the drive into work yesterday morning I found it ironic that I (the long winded widower) wasn’t sure what it was that I wanted to say to them… I didn’t have the words!… and I told her that. She texted me that she truly thought she was prepared for what was happening. My response was:
“I don’t think we are ever truly prepared for the loss of someone… who truly loves us.”
I mentioned to her to remember to take care of herself, too!… which I think is actually the more important message for people living through loss.
Random Widower Notes n Thoughts:
- Yes… I spent waaaay too much time deciding whether to use “who” or “whom”… and I still don’t know which one is correct!
Thirty Days of Mo(u)rning 
4 thoughts on “Didn’t know what to say…”
Maggie
I am so sorry for your friend’s loss. There are no words that will ease the pain as you know. It is just the knowing someone is there when the words finally come. Grief is a singular highway in many ways.
(I am no English teacher, so whatever you write is good with me.)
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Darren Lidstrom
Thanks for not grading me Maggie!
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lssattitudeofgratitude
Loss is difficult no matter when it occurs. Losing my aunt in Jan. at the age of 95 was still an awful loss. I am sure your friend was grateful for your words. BTW I am pretty sure it is “who.”
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Elizabeth
Although I am a retired English professor, I would never be so rude as to correct anyone’s blog post. Now bathroom graffiti on the other hand!!
I think no matter our experience we know that there are no words that suffice at the time.
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